regressive stuff is coming quite naturally to Squiblet and us at the moment. She loves to be held like a baby and will throw her head back and say "baby" when you give her a cuddle and then "pass" so I "pass the baby" to Mama. She likes it when we rock her, feed her milk with a bottle and sing rockabye baby and it's all very comfortable. It feels comfortable to us because we have read about the importance of these things, but also because it's nice to know that we are sharing these special moments with her. I think it would all feel a bit more new age and regressive if she was, five, for example. I wonder if she is still regressing then, whether I will feel the same. I know some people think we shouldn't be giving her a bottle any more, that at almost two she is too old...I say...pfft...what's the bloody problem! The girl can recognise the difference between lichen and moss...she walks, she climbs, she talks and she is progressing at an incredible rate...why should I care that she likes to drink her milk from a teat rather than a sippy cup? I quite like eating petit filous with my finger which some people would probably think is weird...but then those people can either silently judge me from the sidelines or go away...because I'm not hurting anyone and neither is Squiblet with her bottle. And I honestly don't think I would mind if she still wants a bottle from time to time when she's 5, 6, 7...if you're in the privacy of your own home, why not? I guess at that age, other children may judge and then it becomes an issue, but well...I'll worry about that if and when it happens.
We thought that striking the balance between nurturing her and giving her the toddler independence she needs would be difficult but it isn't so far. When she gets tired of spiking her food with her fork, she asks for some help and we feed her a bit. I can't imagine having to feed myself with the motor skills she has! I guess it's a bit like using your left hand to write because it just doesn't quite feel fluid and natural yet. I can see that eating makes her tired, especially cereal where she has to keep her spoon the right way up and angle it just so or she ends up with it all over her. We have made great progress this week as she can now drink from an open cup (one with 2 handles). It's very cute because she looks super serious and says "carefully!" and then very slowly slurps it. It ends up with all sorts of things floating in it but she is very proud of herself and we are very proud of her too. It's funny because I read the Mary Sheridan Birth to Five Years book the other day to see what sorts of things she should be doing and that was one of them so I thought I would try her with it and...tah dah...the girl can do it! She's such an observer though. You won't be concentrating and you turn to face her and she's mirroring your arm position and facial expression exactly. I was sitting cross-legged the other day and she couldn't continue with anything until she could do it too.
I've wandered from the topic of regression into jabbering on about how wonderful she is again. Apologies...but she is!! He he...sorry. Right yes, regression. I'm not sure what else we do. Lots and lots of cuddles is the main thing...lots and lots of the same books...she quite likes reading her baby books but I think all kids are like that because they like the familiarity.
I'm enjoying having a theme to write to. Thanks WASO folk!
Take care everyone. x